Forgiveness (Meditation Series Part I) Sun, Aug 09, 2015
"By doing this [holding onto resentment], you are like a man who wants to hit another and picks up a burning ember or excrement in his hand and so first burns himself or makes himself stink."
-Buddhaghosa, The Path of Purification
"Everyone says that forgiveness is a lovely idea, until they have something to forgive."
Happy Monday, Everyone!
This post will be the first (technically the second, if you count last week's) of a month-long series I'll be doing on the bits and bobs that I've been picking while working on my meditation. In the previous post, I discussed separating yourself from your negative emotional reactions. In this one, I'll go over a related but slightly deeper subject, which is forgiveness.
I think it's important to address forgiveness, because it's one of the least popular subjects in any spiritual practice. This is mostly because it's such an emotionally charged subject. We are all ingrained with a sense of justice. When someone wrongs us, we have a desire for them to be punished. Sometimes, this may be a rightful reaction. However, it's easy to take this feeling to an extreme, turning petty wrongs over and over again in our mind until they grow into a hatred which is unbearably heavy. What does holding these grudges do for us? When I take a hard look at myself, I'm shocked at the number of stupid things I've held on to which have only served to eat away at me. Do your best to seriously consider the grudges you currently hold, without getting bogged down with what the object of your anger "deserves" or "has coming." Is their weight really worth carrying?
Break the chains that bind you!